Has anyone ever tried porn based BDSM with their partners? I wanted to know if using a belt like they do in porn is safe or the base level is fun. It always seems as if the more and more hardcore it gets, the exciting and sexual the experience is but most stories I've heard say it's too much effort and that there are better, sophisticated and subtle ways to turn your partner on. Is there like a base level BDSM thing I can try with my partner to begin with to understand each other's liking and pain threshold because I don't want us to end up with unnecessary bruises or injuries. Sure aggressive sex or rough sex is fun but not at the cost of losing my body parts or my sanity.