I really want an orgasm so bad but my man thinks that the way he has sex with me or fingers me is the only right way to make me squirt or most likely to cause an orgasm when in reality I have to pretend as if I'm really absorbed in whatever it is he puts in so much effort for. The other night I specifically showed him these YouTube videos that taught how to give a girl an orgasm and he tried licking and sucking fruits instead of practicing eating me. Which is also fine but I think he needs to practice a lot so to boost him is it okay for me to pretend as if what he does is working for me to encourage him or shall I just be honest about how I feel and let him deal with the reality of how inexperienced he is.Ahh I will have to resort to male escorts at last!
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I really feel that you should be blunt about your feelings. Sex is supposed to be enjoyable for both of you, not some mental stress. What’s the point of having sex with someone if you are not going to seek pleasure? Maybe just be honest about your feelings and he’ll be better at it next time.
Dude, I had like the same problem with my guy, I would fake my orgasms and surprisingly he never caught me in the past three years. But eventually, I decided to break my silence and speak it out. I shared my feelings with utter honesty and he politely listened to my concerns and was eager to learn how I liked it and what I wanted in it. Not did we explore together but had way better sex the next time. He understood and learned from trying various things on me.
Man, it’s all about communication. Sex is great if you communicate what you like. I and sex mate are always vocal about our likes and dislikes during sex to make sure that we both get the best of it and can satisfy each other’s needs. I never have to fake it and he never gets offended if I tell him that anything, in particular, is not giving me enough pleasure. Infact, he is very keen about learning as to what arouses me the most and often asks me to teach him the way I want it to be done.
If you do not want to be vocal about it for what so ever reason then you can try experimenting with this method: for example it is like you suck his boobs the way you want him to suck yours and that will hint towards that how you like it to be done. It will be like a subtle hint but can work wonders. I am sure he will be smart enough to understand.
Maybe show him more porn or YouTube videos or express it upon sexting. Guys love to sext and it is a great method to express what you actually prefer in bed. If not, simply tell him if you are not enjoying something.Simple!
Well if he is really giving you a hard time to fulfill your orgasm and don't much have the skills to provide you then you better teach him based on your experience on how those men turned you on and made you cum. Communication is the key so don't insist on saying to him what to do.
@JessBarney It's a really a good source if the man has limited moves. He better learns from it so he can perform like a pornstar.
@robz Don't expect too much that he will perform and will adopt the moves quickly. He should at least have an idea of how to do it.