Wife came onto to me the other night, that’s a very rare event.  Nice bit of kissing and she fondled the asleep old man, who responded nicely.  A quick fondle of her tits, she generally doesn’t like that and fingered her pussy, I do like giving oral but alas she doesn’t like it and as she is very overweight the nice bits are buried.

Perhaps a magic night as she moves to give me oral for the first time in several years, my lucky night?  Alas only some gentle sucking of the end before she mounts me, keeping the old man inside her was difficult as she is overweight, so it keep slipping out, she leans forward and the weight of her on my abdomen is painful.  Time for missionary and to fuck her but it’s like trying to fuck jelly.

Eventually I am knackered and roll off, I am asked if I had cum, I lie a little bit, she perhaps knows and finishes me with a hand job.

Sad isn't it.

It's normal when you reach a certain age that you don't feel excitement during intercourse like in the younger days. If you feel like she doesn't satisfy your needs it's common sense to try with escorts.

I suppose I aren't alone in this, in my 20's several times a night, now 1x and I need to be turned on, and some escorts really deliver this!

What i wanna know is, is this all because you're satiated of doing it with your wife, or it's just because you're too old? You have one orgasm with your wife, but will you have two or more orgasms with an escort? Is that because you reached a certain age or it's because you're just not attracted to your wife anymore?

I fuck escorts and photograph the fun where allowed and show it to my wife. She gets horny as fuck watching what I've been up to and we then have great sex ourselves. Works for both of us and keeps our sex life hot and steamy. 

Have you ever tried FFM threesome with your wife and another escort?

With an escort usually a huge cum, its the foreplay lingerie and oral that gets me aroused.

Wife doesn't excite me.

How about your wife, do you excite her? Maybe you should spice up your sexual life. Imagine if you offer her a threesome with an escort and she accepts the suggestion.

For me it was just boredom and a desire to feel alive again.

Unbearable need for young snatch. Kitty is the strongest power in the world.

Probably a bit of both, I have always loved giving oral, if i talked dirty to the wife !l

Like many, sexless marriage. I've tried everything I can think off to reignite sex in our marriage but she has weaponised(possibly not quite the right word) it a point where I'm no longer interested and given up. I pay all the bills 50/50 on household chores, will always put her needs first for everything. But when sex was no longer available I chose to seek it elsewhere. Even whenver she did allow sex, the duration was usually just sighs and moaning under her breath, making it very obvious she was just doing her wifely duty... Started with happy ending massages which soon turned into full service punts. 

It sounds like you're living with a housemate, not a wife. 

Housemate would suggest I at least have an element of freedom in my life. 

No I would describe it as more like serving a prison sentence and she is the warden. 

Sorry to hear that mate. I don't know what's your interest in staying in such relationship, but i'm glad you've found your happiness in punting. Cheers

Some days are harder than others.

I often ask myself why I bother staying in such a relationship. It's down to three reasons, 

1- money. It's my understanding that if we were to split, she would be entitled to half of what I have. Call me selfish/tight but is something I couldn't bare the idea of. I bought the house and pay 100% of the mortgage, council tax, utility bills, car, food bills... other than pet insurance I pay for everything. I refuse to lose half of what I've worked hard for all my life to someone that hasn't once added to it. 

2- stay together for the kid. I just don't think I have it in me to put a child through that, if the wife was to one day say she wants a divorce then fair enough, I will be more than happy to oblige but I'm not prepared to be the one who starts it. 

3- similar to the 2nd, I know of plenty of divorced men with kids and they all have the same story, where the ex slags them off to the kids, it's always the dad's fault as to why the relationship failed... I don't want to give her the satisfaction of telling our kid this. 

I wouldn't say I love seeing escorts, but it helps fill a void and beats watching porn. 

Socially and with the family we get on well, that part of life is fine, it’s just between the sheets that it doesn’t work, lot of reasons, health over long period before recovery, life etc etc.

Suggesting a 3 some would likely back fire.

Escorts make an effort they want you to return, the window shopping making a book and the anticipation, I am semi hard as I walk towards the venue, you know her likes, if you ask and she says NO, no drama.

I was thinking about it recently. I noticed that there are a lot of mid-age guys in the punting scene. What's the reason? Couples get bored with time, sex becomes just a routine. But men have needs. Seeing a young woman naked, and trying something new is always a breath of fresh air. Suddenly you feel alive again. 

Does a woman sense when her partner starts with the hobby? 

I think there could be multiple reasons for it Deftone. 

Every couple/relationship is different but I too have noticed this. 

Years ago whenever I would here about a long term couple splitting, it was always deemed the man's fault, either he was caught cheating, bored of the wife and wanted a younger model or not their for the family... but always the man's fault. 

Since I've been married, and especially since I started punting, I been on many forums and met quite a few middle aged married men that are struggling in relationships and all seems to point to the same reasons of lack of respect, acknowledgement as to what he brings to the family, and almost always lack of sex. A man's needs in modern relationships are no longer a priority, 

My wife was telling me the other day, that one of her married, best friends, early 30's are getting divorced with a young child, and going through splitting the house. We don't see them often because they live 3 hours away but we stayed over last summer and I remember a conversation popping up about them not sleeping in the same bed for the last 6 months and my first thought was another sexless marriage... 

In fact in our small circle of friends, we know of 5-6 couples with kids that are apparently struggling, (this is wife/girls talking) and with all of them it's the man's fault, not doing enough, not there emotionally.. 

Again back to every relationship is different but in my relationship, I have been accused of not doing enough, I tell myself I must do better but then I think, since being married, I've given up all of my hobbies I had before I met my wife, I would say I no longer have friends as I don't have time for them, I'm up at 4:45 every morning, walking the dogs, get home, help get the kid ready for school before heading to work, which with travel is a 10-11 hour day of physical work, go straight home, to interact with the kid for a further 3 hours before getting them down to bed, when they've finally gone down, load the dishwasher, shoes back on, walking the dogs again till gone 21:00 and rinse and repeat 5 days a week. If in that time I ever attempt to get some attention from the wife is met with annoyance and a reason why she can't do anything that day. 

Does make me wonder what percentage of wives/partners with kids out there withhold sex once they know they hold all the cards in the relationship. 

"Happy wife, happy life" is the biggest load of bollocks out there! 

Been there, done that. Fuck it, i'm really questioning whether homosapiens is naturally monogamous or is it just imposed with societal norms we have today.